I am going to ask you to do the unthinkable… critique your body from head to toe. Inside and Out.
This is good. I promise.
The goal of this exercise is to identify your best inner qualities and attributes. Dig deep and think about who you are. Toot your own horn! Are you patient, kind and compassionate? Loving, generous and trustworthy? Any part of you that makes you feel good, positive, and true IS AN ASSET.
Begin by making a list of the qualities you like about yourself. List the exact attribute, why you like it and what makes you feel good about it.
- PATIENT– I try to stay calm, breathe and be patient with others and circumstances I can’t control. Doing this keeps me calm and happy while giving others the time they need.
- TRUTHFUL– Speaking my truth is one of the things I strive for everyday. Being truthful but also choosing my words delicately allows me to be heard and understood.
Continue until you feel that most of your attributes are listed.
Ask your friends!
Ask your closest friend(s) what they think your best inside assets are. I’m sure you’ll get answers that will validate your opinion of yourself and some that will surprise you.
Put it together
Add your friend’s information to your master chart. Be sure to list their name.
Are there assets you want that you don’t have? Claim them and make them yours. If you want ‘Trust of Self’ write it down, state it to the universe, call it in. The more you state it, the more you believe it, the more it becomes truth.
The goal of this exercise is for you to identify what you like about YOU. Who you are and what you represent. Your inside assets – the inner qualities that make you, YOU.
Tricia’s Inside Assets
I can’t ask you to do something that I’m not willing to do myself, so I completed my own chart then asked two of my closest and most straightforward friends to complete it, too. Some of their answers surprised me – in a good way! I’m sure you’ll be pleasantly surprised, too.
My Inside Assets:
Andrea’s Input on my Inside Assets:
- Genuine / real
Kathryn’s Input on my Inside Assets:
As you can see, my friends see more of my attributes as assets than I do. As women we can be hard on ourselves and critical of ourselves, always comparing and sizing ourselves up against others. This is why it’s important to get positive feedback from others; to see how others view us instead of how we view ourselves through our own critical eye.
It’s time to make the most of what you’ve got.
It’s your turn!
Now the outside:
The goal of this exercise it to identify parts of your body you may never have thought of as assets. There are, of course, the obvious body parts: eyes, hair, skin, smile, neck, shoulders, arms, chest, tummy, waist, bottom, and legs. But let’s not forget the less obvious ones; eyebrows, nose, mouth, lips, teeth, cheekbones, jaw line, collarbone, wrists, hands, fingers, ankles, feet and toes. ANY PART of your body can be an asset. If it makes you feel good – it’s an asset.
All you’ll need to get started is a pen and paper.
Begin by making a list of the feature you like about yourself. List the exact body part, why you like it and what makes you feel good about it.
- EYES – My eyes are a pretty color and nice shape. I always get compliments on them. I love experimenting with different eye colors and make-up techniques.
- WAIST – My waist has always been small. I love wearing belts and huge funky pins at my waistline; it’s one of my style trademarks and what makes me…me.
Continue until you have finished all relevant body parts.
Next, ask your friends!
Ask your closest friend(s) to tell you what they think your best features are. I’m sure you’ll get answers that will validate your opinion of yourself and some that will surprise you.
Note: It’s best to do this in person so they can look at you and your body to give solid, straightforward comments, but if that’s not possible then e-mail or phone work too. E-mail is better than phone because it will be in their words and will have full explanations.
Put it together.
Add your friend’s information to your master chart; be sure to list their name too.
The goal of this exercise is for you to identify what you like about your body: your legs, your waist, your hair, your killer eyes or maybe your bountiful booty. Whatever your assets may be – focus on them, draw attention to them and show them off!
It’s time to make the most of what you’ve got!
Tricia’s Assets List
I can’t ask any of you to do something that I’m not willing to do myself, can I? So I went ahead and completed my own chart and then asked four of my closest – and most straightforward – friends to complete it too. Some of their answers surprised me – in a good way! I’m sure you’ll be pleasantly surprised, too.
- My eyes: pretty color, nice shape, always get compliments on them. I love experimenting with different eye colors and make-up techniques
- Kathryn says — You have wonderful eyes and nice long, lashes and nicely shaped brows.
- Kelly says — Eyes – great color
- Amy says — Eyes—lucky you! With those beautiful, bright eyes!
- My waist: it has always been small, I love wearing belts and huge funky pins at my waistline, it is one of my style trademarks and what makes me…me.
- Maureen says –- Your torso is lean.
- Mine: My stomach is flat, not as flat as it was before kids, but still flat.
- My shoulders – they are thin and defined. When I expose my upper body, I feel sexy and thin.
- My long neck makes me feel taller and leaner. I love it bare or with funky, crazy necklaces.
- Kathryn says — You have a very feminine, very pretty neckline (collarbone, shoulders, etc.) I believe this to be one of your best features.
- My hands are thin and long. I love the look of really big rings. I feel very girly and stylish when I have a funky, cool ring on.
- Maureen says –- Your hands are delicate.
- Kathryn says — Your hands are lovely and your fingers are long. Nice fingernails too – long nail beds and your fingernails are always clean.
- Maureen says –- You have great legs. They are a pretty shape and thin.
- Kelly says — Legs – good shape nicely balanced shape (thigh to calf) – could wear any length bottom.
- Maureen says –- You have very pretty arms, thin.
- Kelly says — Arms – lean but not to thin.
- Kathryn says — You have fabulous hair – and you’re adept at styling it yourself.
- Kelly says — Hair – well styled and up to date but classic.
- Amy says — Hair – naturally pretty, healthy hair and stylish too!
- Kathryn says — Your teeth are sparkling white.
- Amy says — Smile – a warm, genuine, friendly smile that shows your true personality.
- Kathryn says — You have a lovely skin tone/skin color – light, but not “pasty”.
- Amy says — Skin tone – a nice natural skin tone that doesn’t show abuse from the sun.
- Kathryn — You’re thin – nicely so.
- Kelly says — Body overall – thin and proportionate – able to wear clothes well – aware of personal style and capitalizes on this.
- Amy says – Figure – one that gets the guys doing a “double-take”! Sleek and slim, yet curvy! With your keen sense of fashion, you make all us girls jealous!
- Kathryn — You have great toes.
- Kathryn — You smell pretty.
As you can see, my friends see more of my features as assets than I do. As women we are very hard on ourselves and very critical of our bodies, always comparing and sizing ourselves up against others. This is why it’s important to get positive feedback from others; to see how others view us instead of how we view ourselves through our own critical eye.
It’s time to make the most of what you’ve got.
It’s your turn – NOW GO!
Your Inspired Action: